Definition of lover: Someone who stands by you through all the troubles which you wouldn’t have had if you stayed Single.
The day you fall in love with someone, you think is the happiest day of your life, but in actual you become the weakest person who can’t live without someone.
Love is like a flash one time happiness rest in trash No time to guess the unexpected happens keeping everything in mess
- SaurabhStar
Love is beautiful until your daughter fall in love with someone
- Shakespeare
Actually last Saturday I was doing some office work so I was online. Meantime one of my friends pinged me on facebook. We chatted for some time about casual things. Then he asked me about my job and all. I said,” Leave yaar it will be same every day. How about you? “The very next question he asked me what maga did you get any girl friend? Actually that moment I got angry because that was the 6th time I’m hearing the same question from my friends this month. I don’t know why he asked that question to me but after that I started thinking about why everyone asking this? Is that much important to have girlfriend? Is it mandatory? So I’m writing this article to share my view of thinking about love. If any mistakes let me know I will try to correct myself thank you.
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| Difference between Being single and Committed |
According to my view there is no love in this generation like Romeo and Juliet; if there is, the percentage is very less. I have seen so many of my friends who are committed. Always they will be on the phone. For them their girlfriend’s problems are more important than their problems or their family problems. If anything happens to their girlfriend they will show their anger on us (friends). For most of the people after getting committed they remember us (friends) only when they need help from us (There are exceptions also). If you love someone also there is no guarantee that you’re going to marry the one you loved. And moreover I have seen so many break ups. I have seen a boy with 20 break ups so I don’t think this is love anymore. Study says don’t trust your lover if she/he had more than 3 break-ups because they have no idea what type of partner they’re searching for. And I have seen so many girls and boys dating more than 1 boy or girl at a time. Reason for this is back up it seems. I have seen so many who started drinking after their break up and some who even people changed their lover.
The sad feeling after break up= (How happy you were with that person) 2 * how Deep your relation was;
Everyone tells the same story falling in love can’t be explained you should experience that. At the same time the feeling of break up also can’t be explained right? I have heard so many getting years back because of break ups and love rejections. So it’s better to be single (Be single but mingle with everyone). And still I don’t know why boys fall in love with beautiful girls? I won’t think this is love. And girls are stupid to believe such type of boys because tomorrow if they find a more beautiful girl than you they will love them, not you right? There are so many films which support love but the fact is the films based on true love stories have had sad endings. I’m a big fan of Chetan Bhagat. He had explained in his book 2 states that “Love marriages around the world, Boy loves girl, girl loves boy they will get married. Love marriages in India there are few more steps: boy’s family has to love girl’s family and girl’s family has to love boy’s family, boy’s family has to love girl, girl’s family has to love boy, still if they love each other then they will get married”. Anyways 2 states is a happy ending. I want others also to have a happy ending. One of my best buddies always tells me, after marriage you have to be with your wife after that there is no way to be single so stay single till then. So be happy if you are single still. Enjoy the journey.
So many of my friends replied me like this when I asked them this question. How do you believe that boy or girl? The answer was fall in love with someone you will come to know. I got bored up with this kind of answers. And one more thing: I have lot of friends in that only few (I can count may be 6 or 7) are girls so I didn’t explore this type of answers with girls. But among them, I had a nice friend but when she gets committed she stopped talking to me. The reason was her boyfriend was possessive it seems there is no value for friendship when boyfriend comes right? I would like to give some suggestion for her here one fine day definitely you will come to know the value of friends and parents. Hope you are happy in Wipro.
If your love is true the next step is marriage right? Here comes the big problem. “Parents” are ready to believe the person who stays in other countries ; they believe marriage brokers and they are ready to give dowry, but they are not ready to believe her daughter or son’s choice because of ego and caste issues; what a world! Really sometimes I feel very funny about this. Parents please respect your children’s choice: if everything is good go ahead or else convince your children about the problems they might face after marriage. But most of the parents never respect their children’s choice unwilling to be convinced leading to drastic steps of eloping with their lover. So please try to understand. What you want your children’s happiness right think over it.
Advantages of having Girlfriend:
When you get time you can spend time with them. For time pass they will be with you.
You will get support for all kinds of problems.
Always busy life; gives you value for your time at a later stage.
You can attend parties.
Disadvantages:
You have to change your habits.
You have to change your character.
You have to leave your friends.
You have to follow their rules and suggestions.
There is no freedom of space
Every day you have to talk to her.
You have to recharge her mobile and hence yourself.
Whenever they give missed call you have to talk getting yourself in a situation.
If any problem you have to solve her problem.
If anyone teases her you have to do something. You have to protect her from others.
Only For Boys:
Till today I have seen so many boys get year back because of girls but I’ve never seen a single girl get year back for the sake of love. And a study on girls (95%) says that they can forget any relationship in 3 months and they can spend normal life after break up but for boy it’s very difficult in most of the cases some boys became too emotional that they choose suicide. Is this what our parents expect from us?
Everything is good if it’s going on in the right way or within limits. Love and girl friends should be a part of life, but most of us think that there is no life without love.
Please don’t change yourself for your lover because if your lover loves you truly then she should accept you as you’re now, so there is no meaning in changing yourself. And one more important thing is never ever avoid your friends and parents for the sake of your lover. Because if you do this when break up happens these kinds of people have only one option: suicide. So please don’t do that. Life is too short. Forgive and forget quickly. Accept truly, enjoy the life. At the end of the day it matters how happy you’re rather than whether you have a lover or not, right? Live happy and leave others to live happy.
And this is very important please don’t waste your dad’s money on your lover. Because use and throw type of characters are more in girls. No money, then no love.
I really don’t know what is love and all and how it pans out also but one thing I can tell you: love is like polio once you love someone, you not able to forget that girl throughout your life. If break up happens, then you will become mad. I know you will get experience but it’s too painful living with that pain like polio. Once polio comes, your body will produce antibiotics and memory cells but it’s too late because your one part will be permanently over. So love and break up are also same. Be careful. If you get the right person then carry on in your way. As the pleasure bike advertisement says why should boys have all the fun? The same way why boys should have all the pain? Creating a virtual Emotional Atyachaar is what we wouldn’t like, right? Wish to see you happy guys .
If you're not happy being single, you'll never be happy in a relationship. Get your own life first, then share it with someone else.
Note: I don’t know much about girls but I know more about boys that’s why in this article I supported boys more; if there are any mistakes please feel free to share your view. Thank you.
